WHY ARE YOU HERE?

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WHY ARE YOU HERE?

That is kind of a rude question!

Imagine some stranger came up to you on the street and asked you that?

You would be put off, right? But if you were in their house, it would be different, right?

However, sincerely would like to know WHY you are here at this website?

It’s a rhetorical question actually – meaning you don’t need to answer us, but you need to answer it for yourself! Though we would love for you to comment below if you would like to share your reasons.

In order to help you, to help yourself, you need to be prepared to admit and share things about your situation – present and past.

Not everyone is ready, but if you are not here to heal and be supported, you are in the wrong place.

This is NOT an endless scammer hunting parade website like so many others. We expose plenty of scammers (23,500 real scammers in a month typically), mostly so victims can avoid them.

That is largely a waste of time for many of you. You can chase scammers until the end of time and not really make a difference.

As a scam survivor, you need to recover and move on so you can feel whole and get your life back.

That is not easy OR GOING TO BE EASY, because most people that become victims become traumatize by the scam – both from the emotional violation and from the dependency of the fake romance itself.

Some of us have already gone through the process and come out the other side. When you truly don’t care about scammers any more – meaning you can go a whole day with thinking about them – you are far down the path.

But if you are a recent victim you are still chasing them, obsessed with them, still angry, still hurt, wanting to get even. We are here to do what we can to help and support you.

You are going to have to do this, to a large entent yourself. No one can save you but yourself. All we can do is help support you.

We have amazing people in here, plus incredible volunteers in our support groups. All together, this is an excellent resource and within our support groups even more. We know why we are here, do you know why you are here?

You need to do the hard work that is takes or it is not going to succeed. That’s just the way recovery works.

Most people in our support groups do not participate. If you are here to just chase scammers, or just listen, you are not really here for the right reason, this is really a website for people that want to get better.

If you are here because you have gone through this process and want to sincerely help others, you are vital and we are blessed to have you our there helping others. Just remember that crime victims’ support is regulated and something for people that know what they are doing.

We just want you to know what we started our support groups for, and to understand that this is about YOU, not the scammers.

Getting back at the scammers, yes it help’s to occupy some of your time, and can lead to some relief, but in the long run, it is a tunnel to nowhere and we would love for you to come out the other end into the light, and not be trapped in the darkness!

So if you are a survivor, you need to start participating in your recovery a little so that we can help. Please let us know! There are people here to support you.

We have put together a (non-medical) support & recovery program based upon the Alcoholics Anonymous’s proven program with variations specifically designed for crime victim assistance and support, registered with the United States Department of Justice’s National Center for Victims of Crime. We saw the truth of this in ourselves and lots of people we have seen over our 27 years holding back the ocean called scams. The ocean always wins, unless you learn to swim.

Why did we bother?

Because we hope that at some point you will be ready and need the help. That eventually you will recover and want to help.

If you are already recovered, and a member of one of our groups, we are blessed to have you, because you are the critical component in helping others. You can be the pillar people can lean on. You can help others get through this maybe a little easier than you did. You can also help rescue more people before they become victims.

Don’t let yourself drown trying to save others! Though saving others is what it is all about. If that is not for you, that is ok too!

This is why we all are here, or should be here.

We are here to support each other, first, last, and everything in between!

However, our people are humans too and deserving of respect for their tireless support of victims, so if you are going to be an idiot or a hater, we can’t help you.

Welcome to the tribe called Recovering Scam Survivors!

The whole SCARS/RSN team are proud to know you and be here for you!

To join one of our on Facebook please contact us through our Main RSN Page Here: www.facebook.com/onlineromancefraud

Keep in mind that SCARS Sponsored and Approved Support Groups are the ONLY ones that are registered and compliant. So always ask if they are a SCARS Member and if they are Approved by SCARS to support !

Sincerely,

Tim McGuinness, Ph.D.
Chairman & Founder
Society of Citizens Against Romance Scams [SCARS]
Miami Florida U.S.A.
a Non-Profit Non-Governmental Organization

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9 Comments

  1. sandra cid March 18, 2018 at 2:41 pm - Reply

    yes, am on this site because of i really need help. I need more answers for me. How could I loved so much someone a man I never saw, from him, i only see a picture on facebook. Of course, we change a lot of o emails. the time passed and he still is an obsession probably because to fraudsters contact me, saying that I am behind his and I have an online banking to take his money, this completely fake. this contact must be made for US Army, not from his ancient friends
    But with this, my depression get worst and worst and even if the money existed I refuse to accept, first, our relationship has the end of another summer to finish “DR.Richard Perkins” or Sargent Justin Olsen I don’t for sure. one thing I know Sargent Justin Olsen always want his account closed.

    But before James Bob i “helped with my father help an English guy who wants to get out from Nigeria, I pay is the flight to Londo but he never catches them so I told him to form no more money. what I gave to him it’s more than enough the solution now is to catch a boat an work on it until to get to London.

    After James Bob cames James Patch with so many names and photos even him forgot his names!

    and of course a lot of them “tried to send money family treasures to Portugal

    but revenge is not in my plans

  2. Zeljka Mujic March 15, 2018 at 5:06 pm - Reply

    Ovdje sam jer učim kako dalje nakon što sam bila prevarena.Nije lako priznati samom sebi da si prevaren.Svi članci koje sam našla na ovim stranicama daju mi smjernice kako dalje živjeti.O prevarama nisam znala gotovo ništa.Novac je prolazna stvar,dođe i ode,a ono što naučiš nemože ti nitko uzeti,!Ja sam uz vas naučila mnogo,i koliko mogu pomognem drugima da ne dođu u situaciju kao ja.Hvala vam za svaku riječ koju napišete,da lakše prebrodimo naše stanje.

  3. Tammy Truesdale March 14, 2018 at 4:46 pm - Reply

    I can tell you about the importance of healing after being a scam victim. This week at my job training there are 3 men training with me. One from Ghana and 2 from Nigeria. If I didn’t have an open heart and an acceptance mind I wouldn’t have understood these men frustration and disappointment on what’s going on in Africa. Believe it or not they spoke about these same scammers in Africa and basically mentioned the same things that I learnt from your. I held something against Africa after I got scammed and didn’t want these people in my world nor in my country. Thank God I can finally let it go. These men was very nice and hard working. Forgiveness is a beautiful thing.. .everyone is not the same.

  4. Marta Bezerra Santa Rosa March 14, 2018 at 6:17 am - Reply

    Eu uso o site para me informar sobre possíveis Scamers,através das listas de nomes e fotos para evitar de cair em golpes,como no ano passado,que quase que fui enganada.Tem sido muito útil para mim e outras mulheres,que estão a procura de alguém para um relacionamento.

  5. Billie March 13, 2018 at 10:18 pm - Reply

    I am here not only to help in any way that I can, but also for support because I was a victim of a scammer and it cost me a lot of money that I really didn’t have to pay the people back that this creep scammed and I was right in the middle of it because it was my PayPal account that he had the people send the money to, not only was it out the money that I had to pay back but I also lost my PayPal account forever and since I have made myself aware of how these people work I really ask tons of questions when I get an email or text from someone I don’t know and when they start saying that they don’t have access to their account or ask me for my banking information I stop them dead in their track’s or if how they talk or spell and are not willing to get on camera than I know exactly who and what they are, or if they say that they love you after only talking for not even a full day and most of the one’s that I deal with say that they are in the military, sorry that this was so long but I not only could use the support but I also want other people to see what I have dealt with and hopefully take something away from what I have said and apply it to whatever they are dealing with. Thank you for allowing me to get this out in the open

  6. Manuel lopez March 13, 2018 at 9:24 pm - Reply

    That’s one of a scammer’s top question for you. ” why are you here”?

  7. Caroline Rocha March 13, 2018 at 6:20 pm - Reply

    I been scam before. They still people out there still trying to scam me for money

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