Scammer Hostility


The African & Russian Schools of Scamming have a similar characteristic, they are working huge numbers of prospect victims, and just don’t have time to waste.

When a victim that they have invested a large amount of time on, discovers that they are a scammer, and makes the mistake of accusing the scammer, the scammer first tries to argue that they are not.

When the arguments and pleading do not work, then they turn mean and hostile.

They immediately attack the victim.

Why do they do this?

There is actually solid psychology behind this. By attacking, they know that a percentage of victims will cave in, meaning they will do what the scammer asks. The victim will think that maybe they were really wrong, that maybe the scammer is not bad person and they angered the scammer. This is not so different from “Battered Spouse Syndrome” – if the scammer sees that the victims gives in a little, they go back to all loving to get what they want. They will keep the victim on emotional highs and lows to get all they can.


When you have doubts about a person, and you see red flags, remember, just walk away.

There is no benefit in confronting the scammer. All you do is subject yourself to emotional abuse, cause yourself doubt, and make yourself vulnerable.

Plus, when you confront a scammer, you only make them a better scammer. You will give them the clues they need to improve. To avoid the mistakes they made with you. Is that what you want?


They are going to say anything to get your money. That includes hostility and all manner of threats. But they are just words. Scammers, regardless of what they say, do not have the time or organization to go after individual victims. They are flying below the radar mostly; if they actually hurt victims the governments of the world would immediately treat them as terrorists, and scammers cannot afford any more attention.

Ignore the threats, report them here on our website or on, then block and avoid them – that it!


  • Pay Attention – look for the red flags
  • Ask questions – a lot of questions, and carefully review their answer or non-answers
  • When you have doubts – collect information – everything you can – not about what they are saying (it doesn’t matter), but their contact details
  • Don’t worry about trying to find rock solid confirmation – it doesn’t matter. You have doubts – listen to your instincts
  • Report them – to us so others will benefit from your identification here on our website or on
  • Scammers may respond with threats – as long as YOU haven’t done anything REALLY stupid, you have nothing to fear

Don’t try to find out WHY the real person is behind the fake persona – it doesn’t matter, you are just wasting your time and frustrating yourself in the process. Accept they are a scammer and move on. Would you do that in real life? If you met someone a couple of times in a bar, and find out that there are things wrong with that person, would you stalk them to find every little detail? We hope not – same here – just move on.

Also, it is very important, after a scammer encounter, especially one where you invested a lot of emotional energy – that you began to recover – that you give yourself some time to get over the experience. Otherwise, a pattern of dependence can develop.


For more information about the psychology of scams, here are some articles that may help you:

Why Do We Believe Lies:

Stubborn Men:


While we could provide endless catalogs of scammers, we believe it is better to help you UNDERSTAND scamming fundamentals. This is a skill set you can develop for yourself, instead of relying on others to save you.

Remember, there are real people out there. But if you are only finding scammers, then you know you are looking for the wrong things.

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