You must admit to God, to yourself, AND to another human being what happened.
The secrecy ends now! Though you don't have to broadcast it.
You have sit down with someone, or on the phone, or online - and confess everything that you identified in Step 2 above.
Yes you are afraid of being judged, but you are an adult and have to do it! It will not be easy, but you will not only survive it, but feel the world lifted off of you because you did it.
What Do You Need To Do?
You have to put aside your ego, your pride, your fear, and acknowledge both your shame and past behavior.
This is very empowering, now you will have someone you can talk to and no longer have to hide behind guilt and lies. It can be in our Facebook group, a good friend, or a family member, but you have to do it!
This step helps you ease the anxiety, depression and irritability of hiding the worst parts of you and what happened. You are able to rid yourself of isolation and loneliness. You can do this.
We are trying to let you know that you are not alone, others have gone through what you have gone through. Some may not understand how or why this happened, but you can be forgiven for your shortcomings and also forgive others who have hurt you.
You must reveal your most distressing and tormenting memories about the scam to the other person. Be as honest as possible with that person and look at who you are and who you would like to become. Be vulnerable and don't hold back, you already lost everything - your love and money - why hold back now? Accept the advice from that person with an open mind, even if you don't agree.
You have to let go of your reservations, after all you opened up to the scammer; don't worry about being judged for what you've done. This is not about them, it is about you!
It's very important to share your most upsetting memories with the other person, so you can receive feedback and advice, support and concern. You'll feel a huge weight lifted once you confide in another human being. This will allow you to move on with more comfort and humility.