Psychology Of Romance Scams ::: Scam Junkies
Are you a Scam Junkie?
What is that?
We know that scams – during the romance phase can lead to an addiction. It modifies your behavior, your thinking, just like an addiction, because it is one – based upon your addiction to endorphins released by your brain.
In short, victims become dependent on what they get from the scammer. Horrible idea, but true.
But what happens when the scam is over?
You should go through a process of grief. But not everyone does.
Some substitute one dependency for another – an obsession with scammers. You just can’t let go.
It is ok to use your desire to fight back (within reason), or a desire to help others avoid the trap you led yourself into. But if you truly look at what you are doing, is it those? Or is it an obsession with the scammers themselves, all of them.
- Do you spend hours looking or searching for fake profiles?
- Do you want to look at every scammer photo posted?
- Do you go and hunt scammers?
- Do you want to know the name of the real scammer behind the fake act?
- Do you want to know and contact the real person in the photo?
- Do you think these things make a difference?
You may have just substituted one dependency for another.
You may now be a Scam Junkie.
These can be ways of avoiding the hard truth about what happened to you and fighting against your recovery.
The fact is you made a bad decision and now you need to move on, The odds are no one will save you, and no one will get your money back. Worse, all of that emotion that you invested in the scammer was a lie. It is hard to take, you want revenge, you want something to help you make sense of it all.
But it doesn’t make any sense, and you just have to learn how to accept that. It starts by accepting two things. You did this to yourself, and now you need to walk away. You need to move on.
You can’t recover if you constantly surround yourself with scammers. Once you are recovered, and if you want to help others, then come back, but for now stop looking at or for scammers.
If you can’t do that, join a support group where people can help you keep it under control, and where you have someone to talk to.
Stop being a Scam Junkie. Make the change and get help now.
You can use our RSN Steps™ program for free:
Or join one of our legal online crime victims’ assistance & support groups. Contact us for details.
However, you have to look at what you are doing and make a change.
Miami Florida USA
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