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gas·light

ˈɡaslīt
verb
gerund or present participle: Gaslighting
manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity or reality.
“in the first episode, Karen Valentine is being gaslighted by her husband”

Gaslighting Introduction

Gaslighting is the systematic process of attempting to erode another person’s reality by consistently telling them that what they are experiencing is not true! And the gradual giving up on their reality; or by the suspension of disbelief by that person!


Do Not Let Yourself Be Gaslighted!
Do Not  With Scammers!


Gaslighting – What It Is?

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, hoping to make them question their own memory, perception, and sanity. Using persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction, and lying, it attempts to destabilize the target and delegitimize the target’s belief.

Instances may range from the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred up to the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.  has been used in clinical and research literature, as well as in political commentary:

The term became famous from the 1944 file “” staring Ingrid Bergman

Origin Of The Term

The term originates in the of a victim by her husband in the 1938 stage play “Gas Light,” known as Angel Street in the United States, and the film adaptations released in 1940 and 1944. In the story, a husband attempts to convince his wife and others that she is insane by manipulating small elements of their environment and insisting that she is mistaken, remembering things incorrectly, or delusional when she points out these changes. The original title stems from the dimming of the gas lights in the house that happened when the husband was using the gas lights in the flat above while searching for the jewels belonging to a woman whom he had murdered. The wife correctly notices the dimming lights and discusses it with her husband, but he insists that she merely imagined a change in the level of illumination.

The term “Gaslighting” has been used colloquially since the 1960s to describe efforts to manipulate someone’s .

Usage / Application By Scammers

Sociopaths and narcissists frequently use Gaslighting tactics. Sociopaths consistently transgress social mores, break laws, and exploit others, but typically also are convincing liars, sometimes charming ones, who consistently deny wrongdoing. Thus, some who have been victimized by sociopaths may doubt their own perceptions. Some physically abusive spouses may gaslight their partners by flatly denying that they have been violent. Gaslighting may occur in parent-child relationships, with either parent, child, or both lying to each other and attempting to undermine perceptions.

This is also a pivotal technique used by Scammers and Con Artists to prevent their victim form recognizing inconsistencies and errors in their fake stories used to manipulate their victims. Every victim can look back at their experience and see those moments of manipulation that they could not see while they were occurring.

An abuser’s ultimate goal is to make their victim second guess their every choice and question their sanity, making them more dependent on the abuser. A tactic which further degrades a target’s self-esteem is for the abuser to ignore, then attend to, then ignore the victim again, so the victim lowers their personal bar for what constitutes affection and perceives themselves as less worthy of affection.

There are two characteristics of Gaslighting:

  • The abuser wants full control of feelings, thoughts, or actions of the victim
  • The abuser discretely emotionally abuses the victim in hostile, abusive, or coercive ways

It is necessary to understand the warning signs of gaslighting in order to fully start the healing process. Signs of gaslighting include:

  1. from the victim
    In the case of scammers – this is the spoon feeding of the storyline – each time there is a problem, the scammer feeds out new information
  2. Countering information to fit the abuser’s perspective
    This can include adapting the storyline to better fit that victims familiar comforts and desires

  3. This discounts any negative issues the victim may raise
  4. Verbal abuse, usually in the form of jokes
    While this happens rarely in a romance scam, we see it in moments of anger by the scammer when there is an expression of concern or distrust by the victim. It also shows when the victim confronts the scammer with the reality of the scam.
  5. Blocking and diverting the victim’s attention from outside sources
    This is where the scammer will try to isolate the victim from family and friends, to prevent them from exposing the scam and the scammer
  6. Trivializing the victim’s worth
    The scammer has one desire – the victim’s money. When victims express concerns about their own welfare, the scammer with emphasizing their need and dependency on the victim, and also the ability of the victim to pay
  7. Undermining victim by gradually weakening them and their thought process
    Scammers use a number of different storylines but also use sleep deprivation and emotional distress to further capture the victims – messages at all hours day and night, and strategically dropped new crisis  after crisis to keep the victim in a state of semi-panic

Three most common methods of gaslighting are:

Hiding: The abuser may hide things from the victim and cover up what they have done. Instead of feeling ashamed, the abuser may convince the victim to doubt their own beliefs about the situation and turn the blame on themselves.

Changing: The abuser feels the need to change something about the victim. Whether it be the way the victim dresses or acts, they want the victim to mold into their fantasy. If the victim does not comply, the abuser may convince the victim that they are in fact not good enough.

Control: The abuser may want to fully control and have power over the victim. In doing so, the abuser will try to seclude them from other friends and family where only they can influence the victim’s thoughts and actions.

Cannot Happen

A true romance scam cannot happen without two fundamental forces:

  • The Gaslighting to control the victim
  • The Amygdala Hyjack so that the victim works against themselves emotionally

Learn More

Learn More: http://www.bbc.com/news/stories-41915425


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2 Comments

  1. aldo n. salvato May 1, 2018 at 11:26 pm - Reply

    why should anyone report ”t t a scammer if you caen’t do anything to stop them?? It is the samb situation as with fighting drugs.The people who should fight them are bought with bribes of amounting to thousansd of dollars.

    • You are either part of the solution or part of the problem. Things are being done, you just don’t get the memos. We explain in detail what’s being done and the progress that is being made. All you have to do is read.

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